The Blog
What If You Had a Magic Wand?
If you had a magic wand, what three things would you change about your life right now? It sounds like a simple question. Almost playful. And yet, I’m always fascinated by how often people struggle to answer it. The response I hear most often? “I don’t know.” A therapist friend once said something that has…
Who Are You Becoming?
Yesterday, I noticed something blooming in my jacaranda tree. Not near the tree. In the tree. Months ago, I tucked what I assumed was a dormant orchid into the crook of the trunk after someone told me orchids often thrive when attached to trees. At the time, it looked like little more than a few leaves…
That Summer Feeling
There is something about summer that feels different. As a kid, it made perfect sense. School was out. The alarm clock was gone. Homework disappeared. Summer meant freedom. Later, as a parent, summer brought a different kind of relief. Fewer lunches to pack. Fewer carpools to coordinate. Fewer bedtime negotiations. The whole household seemed to…
Room at the Table
I haven’t written in several weeks, which is unusual for me. Life pulled me into a season of being more present than reflective. Over the last month, I experienced some beautiful family milestones. Moments of pride, celebration, and joy. Everything from anniversaries and birthdays to graduations. At the same time, there were people I love navigating pain,…
The Muscle Memory of Joy
This weekend, my husband and I celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary. Nothing fancy. No big plans. Just a lot of golf… and a lot of fun. It got me thinking about the evolution of life and relationships. We met playing tennis in our 40s, and here we are decades later, learning a completely new sport…
Wired and Tired
For the past couple of weeks, I’ve been a little quieter than usual. Part of that was travel. I went to spend time with my three daughters, which filled my heart in all the best ways. It was a meaningful trip, but also one that required some emotional heavy lifting. By the time I came home…
The Ties and Tides of Friendship
Adult friendships are a topic that comes up again and again in my conversations with clients. While it affects both men and women, I hear about it most often from women—the longing for connection, for being seen, heard, understood, and supported. Of course, men value connection, too. I saw that in my own father, who…
When Things Feel Hard
It’s been a challenging couple of weeks. Nothing catastrophic. But enough hard moments, disappointments, and conversations to feel it in my body. Tight chest. Busy mind. That familiar urge to react quickly, lash out, or go into fix-it mode. Maybe you know that feeling. When something hard happens, our nervous system doesn’t wait for context or clarity.…
