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Are You Mad At Me?
Are you mad at me?I have asked myself that question more times than I care to admit. Did I say something wrong? Was that text too abrupt? Did I overshare? Am I too much? If you are a people pleaser, you might be very familiar with some of this internal dialogue. Recently, my friend Carol,…
What’s Your Target?
How are you? That’s always a loaded question, right? And lately, my answer has been: I’m fine. Mostly. Except for my golf game. Which has become a bigger issue than it should be. I know. I know. First world problems. But there is something deeper here. I started playing two years ago after tennis started…
Waiting for the Season to Change
It’s almost the end of summer, and I don’t know about you, but I think a lot of us are ready for a change. It’s been hot. Really hot. And here in Hawaii, we just went through a weekend of hurricane watch. Thankfully, we escaped without any major damage, but plenty of people weren’t so…
Just a Number
I’ve always liked the expression “age is just a number,” and I genuinely believe it. I’m having more fun as I get older, largely because I’ve accumulated more hobbies, more interests, and more groups of people I love spending time with. But as I added another candle to the proverbial birthday cake last week, I…
The Book I Almost Didn’t Read
Have you ever decided how you felt about something before you even gave it a chance? We often say, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” Ironically, that’s exactly what I did. Not because of the cover. Because of the title: I’m Glad My Mom Died. Even typing those words makes me uncomfortable. As someone…
Curiosity Before Certainty
Do you ever hear a word and suddenly it takes on a whole new meaning? That happened to me recently. Over the past few weeks, two of my daughters, in completely unrelated conversations, each used the same word to describe someone. Transactional. The first time, I nodded and moved on. The second time, I found myself…
Life is Rarely Just One Thing
Last Saturday, I sat down to watch the Wimbledon women’s final. I expected great tennis. What I didn’t expect was to find myself thinking about friendship, rivalry, courage, grief, and the quiet ways we inspire one another. By the end of the match, I wasn’t really watching tennis anymore. The Women’s final featured two young…
What We Really Lose When We Lose a Pet
Recently, a number of my friends have lost their beloved cats and dogs. Some of these pets lived 18 years. That’s a lifetime. When we think about raising children, they often live at home for about 18 years before heading off to college or building lives of their own. Many of us spend just as long…
