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Sorry, Not Sorry
Do you find yourself saying “sorry” for things that don’t actually require an apology? Welcome to the club!Habitually saying “sorry” is another form of people-pleasing, and like anything we do repeatedly, it can become a bad habit that’s hard to break. Over-apologizers are quick to assume everything is our fault, which is often a trauma response leftover from…
Are You Kind To Yourself?
I will admit that I am my own worst critic. This is true for most overachievers, people-pleasers, and perfectionists. But I wasn’t even aware of it until my friend and yoga teacher called me out for being too self-deprecating. He said, “Don’t talk about my friend that way.” It stopped me in my tracks because, until that moment, I…
Be Patient
There is a sign in my office that reads: BE PATIENT. I had this sign custom-made as a not-so-subtle reminder of what I need to do EVERY day. Many of us, me included, have come to expect immediate gratification because we are used to everything happening at lightning speed in today’s world. When it comes to…
Why Do We Procrastinate?
I could tell you that I procrastinate at times because my dog requires a lot of love and attention, but we both know that would be an excuse. (Although he is kind of adorable and distracting, right?) But here’s a little secret: EVERYONE struggles with procrastination on some level. Whether you are a “habitual procrastinator” or a…
Are You Addicted To Your Phone?
Years ago, I had a therapist tell me that I would never have to worry about addiction because my “addiction to control” would always trump my addiction to addiction. Of course, she was being cheeky because we all know that EVERYONE is vulnerable to addiction, and addiction is a complex stew. It comprises biological components such as genetics,…
Taking STEPS For a New Mindset
This is me on Day One of my new hobby. Yes, I am trying to learn to play golf. How’s it going? Low and slow. My patience is low… and my game is slow. Learning something new is exciting AND humbling, but mostly, it is an exercise in self-compassion. In the latest episode of The OverThinker’s…
Summertime
SUMMER has arrived! Cue the social media posts of brightly painted toes on a chaise lounge, pool floaties, blended cocktails, backyard BBQs, wedding season, families at Disneyland, couples in front of the Eiffel Tower, beach reads, and kids playing in the surf. Summer is a time for vacation and play. For kids, it might mean summer camp, swimming pools,…
Mindfulness with Mark Feuerstein
In 2009, a lot of big things were happening in my life. I was moving to Maui with my family to work remotely while continuing my role as a television executive for the USA Network. This was eleven years BEFORE the pandemic, and it was unprecedented for people in Hollywood to telecommute, so it was quite…