For some people, the holiday season is a glittering countdown of cozy sweaters, twinkle lights, parties, and peppermint-everything. If you genuinely love winter magic, family time, decorating, hosting, or simply having a few days off—amazing. Enjoy every minute.
But for many people, the holidays bring a more mixed bag. Family tension, loneliness, memories that feel heavier this time of year, financial pressure, social events, expectations around food or alcohol, feeling obligated to show up and show up smiling—it can all add up fast.
And that’s why the most important thing you can do this season is honor your limits.
Say YES to the things that bring you real joy.
Say NO to the things that drain you—or that you’re only doing out of guilt, pressure, or habit.
The holidays can be especially challenging for people pleasers and perfectionists.
There are so many opportunities to fall into old patterns, to chase a picture-perfect moment, or to recreate a nostalgia that may not match real life.
But here’s the truth: if decorating isn’t your thing, skip it. If baking feels like a competitive sport, you’re allowed to sit this round out. If big gatherings make your shoulders tense just thinking about them, it’s okay to scale back.
And if you’re watching other people’s “reindeer games” from the sidelines and feeling left out, there are plenty of ways to create connections that have nothing to do with parties—volunteering, joining community events, or simply spending time with people who feel good to be around.
And yes, opting out of the holiday season entirely? Also completely valid.
Bottom line: You’re allowed to do the holidays in the way that feels right for you.
If this time of year is stirring things up for you, or if you’re feeling overwhelmed, lonely, or stuck, you don’t have to navigate it alone. Reach out—I’m here to help you move through whatever you’re carrying this season.
Schedule a coaching session with me here, right here.
With love,
Jackie
