Do you find yourself saying “sorry” for things that don’t actually require an apology?
Welcome to the club!
Habitually saying “sorry” is another form of people-pleasing, and like anything we do repeatedly, it can become a bad habit that’s hard to break.
Over-apologizers are quick to assume everything is our fault, which is often a trauma response leftover from our childhood and an extension of people-pleasing.
The Reasons People Are More Prone To Over-Apologizing:
- Social Conditioning: We’re taught to be polite from a young age, which often translates to saying “sorry” even when unnecessary.
- Avoiding Conflict: Apologizing can seem like an easy way to diffuse tension or avoid potential disagreements.
- Low Self-Esteem: Sometimes, we apologize excessively because we undervalue ourselves and overvalue others’ opinions.
The Consequences of Over-Apologizing:
- Dilutes Real Apologies: Saying “sorry” too often loses its impact.
- Affects Confidence: Constantly apologizing can make you appear less confident and assertive.
- Unnecessary Guilt: Taking responsibility for things outside your control can lead to undue stress and anxiety.
How to Break the Habit:
- Awareness: Start by noticing when and why you apologize. Keep a “sorry” journal for a week to track your apologies.
- Pause and Reflect: Before saying “sorry,” ask yourself if an apology is truly warranted.
- Rephrase: Replace “sorry” with alternatives. Instead of “Sorry for being late,” try saying, “Thank you for waiting.
When you stop apologizing to everyone for every(little)thing, you will stop looking for problems that aren’t yours to solve.
The result will be more energy, confidence, and inner peace.
Now, wouldn’t that be awesome?
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Happy Wednesday!
xo, Jackie
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