You are listening to the Overthinkers Guide to Joy, episode 89. This is the one
where I talk about inspiration that came from the Emmys. Let's dive in. This is a
podcast for overthinkers, overdoers, and overachievers who are tired of feeling over
-anxious and just want to feel better. I'm your host, certified life coach, Jackie de Crinis
Hey there and Welcome back. So they call this the award season in the entertainment
industry. And although I have not attended an award show in probably seven years,
I have to admit, I still love watching them and just seeing what everybody wears.
And I still love to see who everyone votes for. But like most people, my favorite
part of all the award shows are actually the acceptance speeches. Whether it's the
Emmys, the Tonys, the Golden Globes, or the Oscars, there is always one speech that
memorably stands out from the others. Now, Oscar speeches tend to be the ones that
are most remembered, not that often that Emmys or Tonys or Golden Globe acceptance
speeches are quoted, but some of the famous ones over the years from the Oscars
have been like Sally field when she won her second Oscar for best actress in places
in the heart. And she said, the first time I didn't feel it, but this time I feel
it. You like me right now. You really like me. And she was sort of mocked for
that for years and it's been quoted and re quoted so many times, but it was an
impactful speech at the time. And then there was Matthew McConaughey when he won for
his role in Dallas Buyers Club, and he said he needed three things from life each
day, one to look up to, one to look forward to, and one to chase. And then he
identified those things as God was the one to look up to, his family was the one
to look forward to, and it was himself in 10 years was the one to chase. And then
of course he concluded his speech with his trademark, "All right, all right, all
right. And then there was Robin Williams when he won his first and only Oscar for
Good Will Hunting. And when he took the stage, he said, "This may be the one time
that I'm speechless." And yes, the Oscar acceptance speeches tend to be more
memorable, and they're coming up soon in March. But I think there was an Emmy
acceptance speech this year that was so good and so motivated me to actually build
this entire podcast around it. And that was from actress Nisi Nash, or actually Nisi
Nash Betts, because she's been recently married. Now, Nisi has almost 100 acting
credits, mostly comedic, usually smaller character roles, but she always nails
everything she does. But this was her first time winning an Emmy Award. And she won
for Best Supporting Actress for a dramatic series, where she played a dramatic role
in the Jeffrey Dahmer mini -series Monster. And after she took the stage and thanked
the Academy and everyone who voted for her and her producers and her partner, she
said, "I want to thank myself for believing in me and doing what they said I could
not do." It was show -stopping and brilliant. And then she went on to say,
"Go girl with your bad self. For me, this was just awesome.
It was brave, and it was brilliant, and it was 100 % the truth. And actually,
it's the reminder that we kind of all need, which is why I'm doing an episode on
Nisi Nashbeth's acceptance speech. It's not about winning Emmys or Golden Globes or
Oscars or Tonys, although that would be awesome too. It's about thanking ourselves
for showing up to do the hard work, the mundane work, the grind, the tireless
belief, and the hope or clinging on to the hope that anything is possible.
But the problem is so many of us just simply don't have our own backs. We don't
thank ourselves enough for showing up and doing what we do every day. And I don't
care if it's just making your bed, or emptying the dishwasher, or just getting your
kids to school on time, or biting your tongue when your boss is being a jerk,
or when you made dinner for your family or your partner, or when you went for a
walk when you didn't feel like it, or you made it to the gym two days in a row.
We need to thank ourselves and remind ourselves that we're all winners when we show
up. And part of being a winner is not just winning an award. It's really just
showing up every day. And when you show up for yourself every day and prioritize
yourself in a healthy way, then you can show up for others. And this reminded me
of something a number of my clients and actually my friends are going through or
struggling with. Look, there has been an onslaught of bad news on the news lately.
But the truth is, there's always a lot of bad news in the world. This isn't the
first time countries have had conflicts and wars have broken out. And it's not the
first time innocent lives are lost as a result of that. And it's not the first
time people have struggled with poverty or losing their homes because of natural
disasters or losses of jobs. And it's not the first time we've had political
divisiveness at the highest levels of our own government. History repeats itself and
bad stuff does happen. But here's the thing, good stuff happens too.
And the thing is, what we forget, particularly if we're addicted to social media and
watching the news, it's really easy to just take in the bad stuff and then become
paralyzed by it. You may have listened to my last podcast on negativity bias. This
is kind of the same thing, where we can perpetuate the bad by looking for the bad
that is leaning into it. Or we can create more good by being curious and
investigating all the goodness that is around us. And look, I'm not suggesting for
one second that we stick our heads in the sand and ignore what's going on. And I'm
not saying you shouldn't help wherever you can. But what I am saying is that by
taking care of yourself first, you are doing the best thing for others. That is the
best you can do is to take care of your own health, your mind, your body, and
then show up for your family, your friends, and your community. That's where we
start, and that's how we make a difference. But I think what happens is we are so
often paralyzed or demoralized by how big the problems of the world are. And then
we think, well, I can't make a difference. I'm just one person. But we're not
helping anybody by climbing down the rabbit hole with the bad news and allowing it
to paralyze us. So when we show up and invest in ourselves for our well -being,
physically, mentally, emotionally, we are helpful to others. And then we can offer
our time, our skills, our minds, our money or our platform to speak on behalf or
negotiate for others who can't. Because everybody has a skill and everybody can make
a difference by doing the best they can do. So I don't know if anyone can top
Nisi Nash's acceptance speech at the Emmys this year. We'll see at the Oscars on
March 10th. But for now, let's Remember, her three biggest takeaways. Don't stop
believing in yourself. Don't forget to thank yourself and go girl with your bad
self. All right friends, I wanna wish you a great week and keep believing in you.
Bye for now. Thank you for listening to this episode of the Overthinkers Guide to
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